I was recently contacted by a someone who had a friend of hers who was involved in a very freak accident. Her friend is a 64 year old grandmother of a 15 month old. She was caring for the child when she had a seizure and fell on top of the child. She was unconscious for two hours and the child was not able to free herself and consequently died. None of her family and friends can fathom why an accident so cruel as this would happen in a life. This woman was asking me if I had any words of comfort that she could share with her friend and family members.
This was my response~
First of all, my sincere condolences for the tragic loss! I can only imagine how difficult this situation is.
As far as words of comfort, it is my belief and knowing that children choose the circumstances in which they come into. The lives we come into are both a combination of destiny and free will. There is a framework or structure to the life. Certain aspects and events are set in stone. In between the walls of the structure we have free will. Much of the first several years of a child’s life is framework. The fact that there was no free will involved on the part of the grandmother or the child would indicate framework.
There could be a couple of reasons why a child would choose come into a life for such a short time.
1) This was a young soul that is still testing his/her sea legs in physicality. Could be 15 months was plenty of time this time around and chose this life for that reason.
2) Could be this was a highly evolved soul that chose this life more to assist others in their soul progression.
There would also have been a contract between the grandmother and the child for this event. Both parties agreed to be a part of this, probably for the opportunity for personal growth and growth for other close family members.
As devastating as this situation is, there is also a huge opportunity for growth for the entire family. I am sure it is practically impossible to see any of that now, but hopefully in time…..
Regression Therapy would give much comfort for the grandmother and other family members because they could see and understand for themselves the dynamics around this event, but of course, timing is everything with this work. People just KNOW when it is time to do this work.
The reason we don’t remember what came before this life or what comes after a life ends is because we agreed come through what we call the veil of forgetfulness. We knew that in order the learn the lessons and achieve the goals we set for ourselves this time around, we needed to forget everything that came before, or after. However, once a soul reaches a certain level of progression, it is not only appropriate for them to access to this information, it is the NEXT STEP in their progression as a soul.
I hope this information is helpful. I am holding space for comfort and grace for all concerned. Again, my deepest sympathy….
Buddhist philosophy calls for joyful participation in the sorrows of life. This advice is not meant to suggest that we try to enjoy suffering…rather, it encourages us to recognize that hardship and pain are an unavoidable part of life. If we face sorrow and suffering knowing this, we embrace the experience of being alive. Learning to deal with the specific events confronting us serves to augment our soul progress.
Participate joyfully in the sorrows of life.