I was recently contacted by a someone who had a friend of hers who was involved in a very freak accident. Her friend is a 64 year old grandmother of a 15 month old. She was caring for the child when she had a seizure and fell on top of the child. She was unconscious for two hours and the child was not able to free herself and consequently died. None of her family and friends can fathom why an accident so cruel as this would happen in a life. This woman was asking me if I had any words of comfort that she could share with her friend and family members.
This was my response~
First of all, my sincere condolences for the tragic loss! I can only imagine how difficult this situation is.
As far as words of comfort, it is my belief and knowing that children choose the circumstances in which they come into. The lives we come into are both a combination of destiny and free will. There is a framework or structure to the life. Certain aspects and events are set in stone. In between the walls of the structure we have free will. Much of the first several years of a child’s life is framework. The fact that there was no free will involved on the part of the grandmother or the child would indicate framework.
There could be a couple of reasons why a child would choose come into a life for such a short time.
1) This was a young soul that is still testing his/her sea legs in physicality. Could be 15 months was plenty of time this time around and chose this life for that reason.
2) Could be this was a highly evolved soul that chose this life more to assist others in their soul progression.
There would also have been a contract between the grandmother and the child for this event. Both parties agreed to be a part of this, probably for the opportunity for personal growth and growth for other close family members.
As devastating as this situation is, there is also a huge opportunity for growth for the entire family. I am sure it is practically impossible to see any of that now, but hopefully in time…..
Regression Therapy would give much comfort for the grandmother and other family members because they could see and understand for themselves the dynamics around this event, but of course, timing is everything with this work. People just KNOW when it is time to do this work.
The reason we don’t remember what came before this life or what comes after a life ends is because we agreed come through what we call the veil of forgetfulness. We knew that in order the learn the lessons and achieve the goals we set for ourselves this time around, we needed to forget everything that came before, or after. However, once a soul reaches a certain level of progression, it is not only appropriate for them to access to this information, it is the NEXT STEP in their progression as a soul.
I hope this information is helpful. I am holding space for comfort and grace for all concerned. Again, my deepest sympathy….
Buddhist philosophy calls for joyful participation in the sorrows of life. This advice is not meant to suggest that we try to enjoy suffering…rather, it encourages us to recognize that hardship and pain are an unavoidable part of life. If we face sorrow and suffering knowing this, we embrace the experience of being alive. Learning to deal with the specific events confronting us serves to augment our soul progress.
Participate joyfully in the sorrows of life.
Most of us have heard of this quote out of the bible and understand it intellectually but most of us have not figured out how to actually live it.
To be the observer, the witness and be able to “respond” to the circumstances and events in our lives instead of “react” is the ultimate quest.
The world triggers us emotionally, up and down, back and forth, constantly pulling us off balance and off center.
Have you ever known one of those people who never seem to get riled up over anything?
They move through life calmly and gracefully, even joyfully and we wonder how they do it!
What they have that most of us don’t have is PERSPECTIVE!
Most of us are looking at ourselves and the world around like fish in a fish tank. All the fish knows is the limited world that it swims around in all day. It bumps up against the four walls around it and assumes this is the end of its world.
It doesn’t even know there is another whole world outside of the tank.
Because of our lack of PERSPECTIVE, we make decisions and judgments on very limited amounts of information. We don’t know it’s limited though, because like the fish, most of us are UNAWARE there is anything outside of what we can see, touch, taste, smell and hear.
Regression Therapy opens up a whole new world to us, giving us a greatly expanded view of ourselves and the world around us.
It is difficult to go through this work without drastically altering your PERSPECTIVE. This broader PERSPECTIVE allows us to move through this life more calmly, gracefully and joyfully.
Clients consistently report that finding their place both in the physical world and the eternal spirit world is the most significant work they have ever done.
On that momentous night when Buddha attained enlightenment, it is said that he went through several different stages of awakening. In the first, with his mind “collected and purified, without blemish, free of defilements, grown soft, workable, fixed and immovable,” he turned his attention to the recollection of his previous lives. This is what he tells us of that experience:
I remembered many, many former existences I had passed through: one, two births, three, four, five . . . fifty, one hundred . . . a hundred thousand, in various world-periods. I knew everything about these various births: where they had taken place, what my name had been, which family I had been born into, and what I had done. I lived through again the good and bad fortune of each life and my death in each life, and came to life again and again. In this way I recalled innumerable previous existences with their exact characteristic features and circumstances. This knowledge I gained in the first watch of the night.
All of our pain and suffering comes from our attachment (or need) to having things turn out a certain way. If our mother doesn’t behave in the way we expect “a mother” to behave, we are disappointed. If a vacation doesn’t go exactly as planned, we are disappointed. If a relationships ends that we thought would be there forever, we are devastated. However, if we can figure out a way to go through life putting out there what we would like to have in our lives, getting in touch with what if FEELS like to already have it and HOLD that energy….and then…(here is the tricky part) letting go of any attachment to it!
We we cannot possibly know what the universe has in store for us. It can see the bigger picture that we cannot. Ultimately, we are in control of NOTHING! Life is a series of one moment after another unfolding perfectly (even if it doesn’t seem so at the time)
True freedom comes from letting go of attachments to everyone and everything! That doesn’t mean you stop loving people or stop appreciating the things in you life, in fact the opposite is true. When we can let go of our need for ourselves… or other people… or things… or events to look a certain way, we come to the place of unconditional love. We can love ourselves just the way we are, faults and all. We can love others, just the way they are, faults and all. And we can forgive ourselves and other for being less than perfect. And we can have appreciation and gratitude for all the abundance in our lives. We can let people, things, and experiences flow in and out of our lives without becoming attached to them or needing to hold on to anyone or anything and our cup is half full, not half empty. Life becomes joyous and easy and free at that point.
When people get on the other side they consistently describe a very specific place of peace and compassion, unconditional love, joy and humor. (They can be very funny on the other side) The soul goes there after each life to rest and to study and discuss what the next incarnation should be. Exploring the spirit world between lives is like opening the doors to the library of the soul’s “eternal’ memories.
Dr. Michael Newton is one of the pioneers of this work. Dr. Newton is a psychotherapist that had been doing past life regressions for his clients for many years when accidentally stumbled onto a method that could access people’s life Between Lives. He did over 7,000 BLR’s researching this place. He wrote a book about it. It is called “Journey of Souls” and is a must read if you are interested in this amazing work.
My brother Dave never seem totally comfortable in the family. He started pulling away from us at an early age. He and my father had a really hard time getting along. As an adult, he got to the point where he really didn’t want anything to do with the family. I never understood what that was all about.
Before my mother died she took me aside and told me there would be a letter for my brother in a safe deposit box and I was to make sure he got it, when the time was right. I asked her how I would know when the time was right and she said, “you will know, you will just know”
10 years after my mother died I was in Florida attending a personal growth workshop and during an emotional release process my mother began talking to me and what she told me was…..
NOW was the time for my brother to get the letter. And she also told me that when she and my father were young, they had gotten divorced for a year. She got involved with another man, got pregnant, he left her, she called my father in the phone one day, crying, told him she was pregnant and didn’t know what to do. He told her he still loved her and wanted her back and would raise this child as his own. This child was my brother, Dave.
Now, imagine me going to my father (who had the key to the safe deposit box) and telling him that mom was talking to me and I knew the whole story.
All of this was VERY upsetting to my father. He didn’t understand how my mother could be talking to me and he said he could not give my brother the letter because he had made a death bed vow not to release this information unless there was a terminal illness or something where Dave needed to know who his biological father was. However, my mother was being very persistent. When my father stalled, I told him if he didn’t tell him that I would! This made my father EXTREMELY angry with me. He told me I had no right……
I had to do some deep soul searching and finally realized he was right, this was NOT MY ISSUE. This was between my mother, my father and my brother. I was just the messenger.
I told my father that I would not say anything for now but mom didn’t have the courage to tell him before she left and you may wait to long and something my happen to you. Then he has to hear this from his sister! Is that the way you want him to hear it?
Not long after, my father sat down and told Dave about the circumstances around his birth and gave him the letter. This was a time of great healing for my brother and for the whole family. It answered so many questions and he started coming back to the family. We started seeing him at family gatherings and at the holidays again. And then….he was diagnosed with cancer and two years later he died.
You see….my mother KNEW what was coming and that he needed that information back then, because if he had gotten the information at the time of his diagnosis, it would have pushed him further away from the family and as it was we were all able to be there with him in the end.