On that momentous night when Buddha attained enlightenment, it is said that he went through several different stages of awakening. In the first, with his mind “collected and purified, without blemish, free of defilements, grown soft, workable, fixed and immovable,” he turned his attention to the recollection of his previous lives. This is what he tells us of that experience:
I remembered many, many former existences I had passed through: one, two births, three, four, five . . . fifty, one hundred . . . a hundred thousand, in various world-periods. I knew everything about these various births: where they had taken place, what my name had been, which family I had been born into, and what I had done. I lived through again the good and bad fortune of each life and my death in each life, and came to life again and again. In this way I recalled innumerable previous existences with their exact characteristic features and circumstances. This knowledge I gained in the first watch of the night.
All of our pain and suffering comes from our attachment (or need) to having things turn out a certain way. If our mother doesn’t behave in the way we expect “a mother” to behave, we are disappointed. If a vacation doesn’t go exactly as planned, we are disappointed. If a relationships ends that we thought would be there forever, we are devastated. However, if we can figure out a way to go through life putting out there what we would like to have in our lives, getting in touch with what if FEELS like to already have it and HOLD that energy….and then…(here is the tricky part) letting go of any attachment to it!
We we cannot possibly know what the universe has in store for us. It can see the bigger picture that we cannot. Ultimately, we are in control of NOTHING! Life is a series of one moment after another unfolding perfectly (even if it doesn’t seem so at the time)
True freedom comes from letting go of attachments to everyone and everything! That doesn’t mean you stop loving people or stop appreciating the things in you life, in fact the opposite is true. When we can let go of our need for ourselves… or other people… or things… or events to look a certain way, we come to the place of unconditional love. We can love ourselves just the way we are, faults and all. We can love others, just the way they are, faults and all. And we can forgive ourselves and other for being less than perfect. And we can have appreciation and gratitude for all the abundance in our lives. We can let people, things, and experiences flow in and out of our lives without becoming attached to them or needing to hold on to anyone or anything and our cup is half full, not half empty. Life becomes joyous and easy and free at that point.
When people get on the other side they consistently describe a very specific place of peace and compassion, unconditional love, joy and humor. (They can be very funny on the other side) The soul goes there after each life to rest and to study and discuss what the next incarnation should be. Exploring the spirit world between lives is like opening the doors to the library of the soul’s “eternal’ memories.
Dr. Michael Newton is one of the pioneers of this work. Dr. Newton is a psychotherapist that had been doing past life regressions for his clients for many years when accidentally stumbled onto a method that could access people’s life Between Lives. He did over 7,000 BLR’s researching this place. He wrote a book about it. It is called “Journey of Souls” and is a must read if you are interested in this amazing work.
My brother Dave never seem totally comfortable in the family. He started pulling away from us at an early age. He and my father had a really hard time getting along. As an adult, he got to the point where he really didn’t want anything to do with the family. I never understood what that was all about.
Before my mother died she took me aside and told me there would be a letter for my brother in a safe deposit box and I was to make sure he got it, when the time was right. I asked her how I would know when the time was right and she said, “you will know, you will just know”
10 years after my mother died I was in Florida attending a personal growth workshop and during an emotional release process my mother began talking to me and what she told me was…..
NOW was the time for my brother to get the letter. And she also told me that when she and my father were young, they had gotten divorced for a year. She got involved with another man, got pregnant, he left her, she called my father in the phone one day, crying, told him she was pregnant and didn’t know what to do. He told her he still loved her and wanted her back and would raise this child as his own. This child was my brother, Dave.
Now, imagine me going to my father (who had the key to the safe deposit box) and telling him that mom was talking to me and I knew the whole story.
All of this was VERY upsetting to my father. He didn’t understand how my mother could be talking to me and he said he could not give my brother the letter because he had made a death bed vow not to release this information unless there was a terminal illness or something where Dave needed to know who his biological father was. However, my mother was being very persistent. When my father stalled, I told him if he didn’t tell him that I would! This made my father EXTREMELY angry with me. He told me I had no right……
I had to do some deep soul searching and finally realized he was right, this was NOT MY ISSUE. This was between my mother, my father and my brother. I was just the messenger.
I told my father that I would not say anything for now but mom didn’t have the courage to tell him before she left and you may wait to long and something my happen to you. Then he has to hear this from his sister! Is that the way you want him to hear it?
Not long after, my father sat down and told Dave about the circumstances around his birth and gave him the letter. This was a time of great healing for my brother and for the whole family. It answered so many questions and he started coming back to the family. We started seeing him at family gatherings and at the holidays again. And then….he was diagnosed with cancer and two years later he died.
You see….my mother KNEW what was coming and that he needed that information back then, because if he had gotten the information at the time of his diagnosis, it would have pushed him further away from the family and as it was we were all able to be there with him in the end.